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Birth


Birth, more often than not, takes place in a hospital, often on an appointed day that may not be the day that a baby would have been ready to be born naturally. If baby and mother are lucky, it is taking place in a birthing environment that is somewhat adapted to the occasion.
But still, a hospital is not a home and the mother is invariably surrounded by a team of non-family members, kind professionals for sure but strangers nonetheless who the mother and child just encounter on that day and hardly ever after.
If the child is lucky, the father is also happily and not too nervously present. He and the mother may even have taken some special pre-natal classes: for the mother to learn how to breathe in a special way, and for the father to coach her and to surround her with confidence and warmth.
However well prepared though, it is nevertheless expected that giving birth is by nature a painful process. It is not assumed that contractions can be a painless dynamic – although powerful – to help the baby advance through the birth canal and to enter into the outside world in which the mother and father live. But no matter how well prepared, in the end the mother is still pressured by the attending helpers’ verbal and not uncommon loud commands (even from the father) to "push" – to push in such a way that the natural rhythm of the contractions and the rests in between, are interfered with. In addition to that, the mother is usually in a supine position where the baby has to work against gravity to transfer itself from its mother’s womb of relative weightlessness, symbiotic harmony and natural timing into the world of disturbing gravity, nervous disharmony, cool efficiency, haste and often a lack of patience.

There are alternatives nowadays to the way the "modern" woman gives birth. 
The oldest perhaps, and simplest, closest to the way so-called primitive and possibly still pristine people give birth, is the squatting position; a position with which the father can be cooperatively involved, an approach that at first may seem "nonsense," but which eventually makes total physical sense. The muscular pressure of the squatting body, the pressure of the oxygen filled chest and lungs on the diaphragm, its rhythmical pushes helped by natural breathing that is regulated by the birthing process itself, it all helps the contractions not to be painful at all. Aided along by the earth’s accepting power of gravitation, all of this appears to have an almost cosmic power as the baby slides into the world, into the warm and expecting hands of a helpful and loving father – not a helpless and nervous one who is (often) disdainfully held in the background as though an outsider to his own child’s wondrous birth. (And we are not even talking about the drugs that can turn the mother into an almost non-participant, nor are we even talking about a cesarean delivery.)

The next described unfortunate procedure luckily does not happen too often any more, but up to quite recently, a child was immediately after being extracted from the womb, taken by the feet, lifted up and held upside down by the ankles and given a brisk slap on the buttocks. The pain from the slap is probably not as serious as the discomfort from the suddenly recoiling spine under the full impact of gravity, caused by the upside-down and stretched dangling position of the newborn, the baby's spine being forced into a curvature it had not experienced during all the months the child spent in the safety of the mother's womb. As muscles and nerves have a long memory, the sudden unnatural curvature sets the stage for extra sensitivity to all kinds of physical and nervous problems that might be experienced later in life:
  • lower back pain, 
  • urinary and sexual organ symptoms, 
  • scoliosis, 
  • imbalanced personality traits, 
  • subluxation or misalignment of the lower lumbar vertebrae, 
  • gastro-intestinal disorders, 
  • will-power or motivational problems, 
  • upper lumbar vertebrae misalignment that can contribute to heart, lung, lymphatic and emotional distress,
  • cervical bone and neck muscle stress that can contribute to thyroid pro-blems as well as chronic headaches and migraines. 
If not held upside down and receiving the bum rap, instead of that or additionally, the baby gets pricked and prodded and its throat and nostrils inserted with a suction instrument to remove phlegm that might constrict its air passages. Could it be that this sets up the many nasal, allergy and food dislike problems that parents experience so often with their children? (And I did not even mention circumcision!)
To prevent a 1 in-10,000 chance of a mishap at birth, every child now gets to receive with 100 percent certainty a variety of interfering treatments before it even gets a chance to bond with the mother and father in love, trust and confidence...
The baby though can be delivered into the warm arms of the mother who can hold the baby and embrace it, while the father feels the umbilical chord and notices in wonderment how the pulsations through the chord slow down while he confidently waits for them to stop so that he in full confidence can sever the chord, without severing or separating the baby from the mother.

Instead of that, birth attendants, however well intentioned, do their job in the cool and efficient manner of the professional, even cleaning the child of its protective skin coating, while not really paying heed to the loving needs of the baby and its parents. The baby is even taken away from its parents for some time to do routine check-ups and fulfill administrative tasks such as recording the baby’s weight and length. Sure the baby will be returned to the mother, but often not for long as the anonymous baby ward, cribs lined up, is waiting for the labeled baby to be put to rest in shared loneliness with other babies away from their respective mothers – something most mothers did not naturally expect to happen for all the nine months of expecting their baby into their arms and on their breasts, and the babies expecting the breasts of their mothers and their mother's warm embrace.
No wonder breast-feeding does not follow naturally.
Good thing is that things are changing, but unfortunately we have a world (the rest of the world) still in the process of wanting to catch up to the interventive methods of the West, even while the Western ways are changing... albeit rather slowly…

And then of course there is… sound, especially the sound that comes from the lips: voice, words... language. Upon opening its eyes, the baby’s first visual urge is to look at close range for movement, especially movement from the mother's mouth. Maybe it expects a kissing mouth or a licking tongue as happens in the animal world. The baby's ears are geared to match the sounds it hears to the movement of the lips, it is looking for synchronicity and correspondence between sound and movement.
A baby is into coordinating, it does not expect mixed messages, it is not ready for second-guessing… although… that might come all too soon as it quickly picks up any incongruence between sound and lips.

When it hears sounds that are not accompanied by simultaneous lip movements, it looks for the next feature in sight: the eyes, and in those eyes it expects nothing else but recognition and a warm welcome. When the baby finds that welcome and recognition, it will smile: a happy human just making its first human connection outside the womb.

But that is not what usually happens: while births took place, jets have been heard taking off over hospitals, there's the sirens of ambulances, the hubbub of the delivery room, air conditioners humming and many an electronic apparatus… none of it conducive to a peaceful birth at all! Instead of that the baby may find no happy confirmation of its arrival, no immediate recognition.
There might even be discord.
All too often a baby cannot respond with a smile when it hears, "Can you give us a smile?" and when it hears, "How are you doing?", "Are you OK?", "Are you cold?", "Are you hungry?" the upturn at the end of those kind of questions is disconcerting.
The lack of unconditional acceptance and trust is unexpected and the child closes its eyes. It will try looking for it again a little later as expectation is an ingredient of birth... or it will just cry.

Instead of ending up in a world of warm welcome, safety, security and confidence, something it naturally expects more of after its unquestioned living and unconditional giving and taking in the womb, many babies receive the opposite.
No wonder many are shocked, no wonder many will cry.

Just as a butterfly, after its metamorphosis, expects more mobility than it had as a caterpillar, or just as a flower expects more space to bloom in than the space around its original seed shape, a baby expects a similar expansion after its stay in the womb… not a contraction, not fearful questioning, not medical intervention, nor unsatisfactory knowledge on how to be treated.

Something that might be dumbfounding to an infant just born, could be the experience that although it physically knows it was expected, that at the moment of its own arrival in the world, the discovery of its gender is not what the parents expected or hoped it to be. (Of course nowadays there is ultra sound.)

As the child is the answer to expectation, it expects to be welcomed with the happy surprise of words like, "Ah, there you are, what a dear little boy!" or "Oh, what a lovely girl!" Instead, it might hear the doctor's question, "Let’s see, what have we got here? A girl, isn't it?" Or it sees the unsure face of the mother who questions dubiously without even voicing any words. And if not that insecurity, it might see worry on the mother's face regarding the baby's health, as the baby hears the mother ask, "Is she all right doctor?"

Questions, questions!
It may not seem all that relevant or important, but have you ever noticed?
In nature there are no questions. 
You might say, "Well of course not, we are humans, this is human nature, we are farther advanced!" But are we?
What with our wars and feuds, our inability to share and be cooperative?
I would suggest we would be more advanced if our compulsive questioning had never begun.

Questioning is not the same as wondering and being curious; questioning with a skeptical judgmental twist is not really helping any advancement.
It seems to me that we can do without the artifice of questioning, but we can count on wondering and curiosity… they are part of nature. They remain naturally, whereas questioning persists unnaturally.
Even a plant's roots looking for water uses its sensing curiosity to find it. Curiosity?
Yes! But a plant will not do the equivalent of the question, "I'm thirsty, can I get some water please?" Or when it is searching for warmth, it will not ask, "How are you sun? Could you give me a warm smile, and... uh… if you don’t, I don’t like you anymore!"

Although we as grown-ups may be used to questions, questions were not something a baby was having on its mind while being in its mother's womb, nor does it expect questions at the moment of birth or soon after. It expects a welcome after birth, it was after all "expected." It cannot conceive of anything else but an unconditional "Yes, you are welcome!" expressed with the same unconditional exchange as it experienced it while living in the womb. Instead of that, much too soon different expressions will start to stand out, expressions like, "Don’t!" and "No, no!" It will see many faces, but the faces' voices will be voiced over with the "don’ts" of concern such as, "Don’t breath on the baby!" and "No no, don’t hold baby like that," etc.

Now a baby will more likely bond with the inhibitions, obstructions and resistances in its environment, rather than with balanced acceptance. It is the opposite of what naturally flows from life... No wonder the presence of tears.
And, gosh what happens if the baby is a boy and the parents, through the pressure of cultural and religious customs have been forced or elected to have the boy circumcised? The so sensitive foreskin will be prematurely and abruptly loosened and cut from that what it otherwise would not loosen itself from naturally. While undergoing circumcision the constrained little baby boy will experience sharp cutting pains leaving him in severe shock, some say even to the point of coma1. The sensitive area usually takes a week to heal, and there is hardly any reprieve during that time due to the burning sensations whenever the little one urinates.
The resistant survival reactions of the little boy, so prematurely and needlessly awakened, might very well change his behavior-to-come: from a naturally peace loving gentle male (a gentle-man) to a bitter, possibly aggressive and vengeful one, always on the ready to never be caught off-guard again, too often being in a state of tension and stress, expecting that he could be duped again, any time.

Sure, circumcision may not be a deciding factor in what makes the difference between boys and girls emotionally, but the tendency of aggression, violence and belligerence in males is quite distinct from that in females and if not attributable to this first assault on innocent life, it may still have much to do with it.

And what about female circumcision(2)?
It is still happening in some Arabic and African cultures! Could it be that this unconscionable mutilation during early childhood of women also creates a staunch belligerence – although likely more femininely expressed – in addition to other psychological and physical problems, as well as of course, the cultural and social ones?

Notes:
(1) An obstetrician was overheard saying, "How can a baby experience anything negative from that procedure, it is likely in a state of shock and unconscious anyway."

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